Friend Vs Unknown

Friends around me starts praising celebrities when they see their interviews about struggle stories and talks how big a fan he or she is to them. And when their own friends leave jobs and struggle each day to achieve what they dream of, they get bullied or counselled about doing regular jobs. This made me wonder why wouldn’t they encourage their own folks to achieve something bigger and Praise and become fan of some unknown who has already achieved. 

Here I am jotting down few of such incidents I have come across where people blindly support unknown people and not their own friends.

I work almost 14 hours a day

For Friend: Dude, you should live your life, what will you do working so much!

For Unknown: OMG! How do you manage time?

I can't give much time to Family or Friends

For Friend: You never have time for us, so we don't usually include you in our plans. You are a spoil sport!

For Unknown: What a dedication and Focus!

I Quit my job to Pursue my dream

For Friend: Are you mad? All these things won't work out. You are wasting your time. 

For Unknown: I wish I could also pursue my passion

Facebook Page

For Friend: What will I get if I like your page?

For Unknown: What a brilliant work, *likes*

I'm just quoting few statements which I came across and not generalizing that all friends are the same. Many have genuinely supported me amongst my friends itself.
But I have been lucky that I have met some amazing bunch of people through social media, who have been supporting me without any expectations and they mean more than a friend to me. I'm just a unknown identity to them!

Support each other and grow or criticize and stay small! 

Thoughts of my conscience!

Almost once every week that I see someone on the road asking for lift. Not sure if everyone comes across this or I travel in such roads where people do not hesitate taking lifts. Oh by the way these are all men, of course women won’t or can’t ask lift from a stranger when even regular cabs aren't safe for them.. how will they trust strangers..!

So coming back to me seeing some strangers asking for lift.. my heart tells me to stop my vehicle and drop that person in need. But my mind says NO, you might get into trouble. I have heard many stories around people getting hurt or looted when they give lift to strangers. I being a paranoid person can’t stop thinking of those scenarios happening to me.

So every time I see someone looking for a drop, I look at him and almost wanting to stop but just flee away. And the whole way all I could think is did I do wrong by not helping someone in need, what if that person was in urgent need of drop. Then my brain takes over asking what if that person had a weapon and had bad intentions behind asking lift.

I felt guilty every time I did not stop and help someone who wanted lift, then came a fine day when this small boy on a flyover was looking for lift.. Without listening to my brain I just stopped blindly. Spoke to him about his school and exams while on the way and dropped him. I felt GOOD! I mean if we live in a society where we are scared to help others in need what kind of living is that.

I felt being optimistic is the only key to stay and be happy. You have a hope for the future if you can keep up your optimism. When I got the smile back from the kid after dropping there was hope that not everyone is bad. I should continue to be helping positively. 

One other example I would like to recall here is, there was this girl whom I just knew from social media. She needed a place to crash at night as her train was reaching Bangalore late at night. I offered her to stay over at my place and she obliged. No big deal right? When my friend called me that night and I mentioned about this situation to her, she yelled at me saying if I am out of my mind calling a stranger to stay at home. It’s not that she is a bad person but she is SCARED. But this incident gave me a friend who I like to talk with. And makes me be optimistic about making new friends. After all friends are a strangers at the beginning.

Thanks to https://housing.com/lookup that made be recall and share these incidents with you all.

With this all I am saying is let’s try to do good deeds on every day basis and reinstate trust in each other.

--Spread a smile today!